Child Care Corner: Helping children cope in the aftermath of hurricanes

By: JANE B. JONES
Extension Agent

During the aftermath of hurricanes, the emotional expressions by adults influence the reactions of children in their care. Teachers can help children deal with their feelings by closely monitoring their own emotional situation as well as modeling healthy coping strategies.

After experiencing a disaster, it is not unusual for adults and children to feel any or all of the following: shock, disbelief, fear, guilt, grief, confusion, loss and anger. Children may have trouble understanding and talking about their feelings. Children of all ages may need guidance and support from adults in their lives as they work through their feelings and emotional reactions.

Anger will be a natural extension of other emotions because it is a defensive mechanism that makes us feel more in control. The desire to “retaliate” can be strong—but quite harmful if not redirected to a positive outlet. Adults must ensure children do not “take out” their anger in unsuitable ways, such as lashing out at classmates. The key is to direct anger and other strong emotions in socially and psychologically healthy ways. Here are some ways to help children diffuse their angry feelings:
•Let them understand that anger is a normal emotion under the circumstances.

•Answer their questions with age appropriate, honest and open answers.

•Teach them to stop, take a deep breath, and imagine an enjoyable activity.

•Encourage children to talk about their fears/sense of loss.

•Engage them in physical activities.

•Be flexible in discipline and monitor your reactions to their misbehaviors.

•Have children come up with ideas on how to help those who have experienced losses from the hurricanes.

•Teachers play a vital role in helping children overcome traumatic effects of disasters. The process does require time and patience, but it provides a valuable opportunity to teach them how to cope more effectively and deal with new challenges.

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